To the editor: I very a lot loved studying visitor contributor Amy Getubig’s piece (“Women aren’t too picky to date. They just don’t need men to feel fulfilled,” April 9). I actually don’t query her experiences, however two issues did come out to me.
First, she brings up a cliché: “Los Angeles is a metropolis constructed on reinvention. Folks come right here to create one thing.” This isn’t actually the expertise for the broad swath of people that had been born in L.A. and whose social circles additionally comprise individuals who had been born right here.
And sure, folks from different components of the nation do come right here to reinvent. However as somebody who grew up right here, my buddies who felt a robust have to reinvent additionally moved away to locations like San Francisco, Seattle, New York Metropolis and Portland, Ore. I’m positive Getubig’s assertion is true for a lot of transplants, however it doesn’t actually clarify Los Angeles to anybody who isn’t a part of that transplant group.
I discovered her different insights compelling and intriguing. Nevertheless, there appears to be a generalization made. There are each women and men who may need relationships, however whose life expertise may be very totally different due to age. Women and men of their mid-20s and women and men of their late 30s and early 40s live very totally different lives and are in very totally different locations in changing into who they’re. It’s not a one-size-fits-all factor.
I’d suppose that extra nuanced explanations could be welcome after studying this superb first step at explaining the current scenario.
Jerome Vered, Los Angeles
